What's the point?

[flying dog]

Of calling for help when:

 

- There may not be the infrastructure/processes needed there

 

- The "problem" is beyond your conceptual abilities

 

Gee, I bet that is going to be some interesting replies and questions put back to me.

 

 

[facthunter]

Gives you something to think of IF you are incapable of doing anything else. There is always something you can do that achieves something, even (as is said) Kiss your a$$e goodbye. Nev

 

 

[flying dog]

Yeah, ya not wrong.

 

I guess it sort of also brings home the saying "anything is better than nothing" so doing anything is better than nothing.

 

And probably helps for the next time it happens.

 

 

[facthunter]

Yeah! Getting serious. If you can quickly assess what you have GOING for you, make the most of that and discard/ignore the things that do nothing for you, as a useless distraction. Nev

 

 

[motzartmerv]

Whats the point of your question? Bored?

 

 

[flying dog]

Thanks Nev.

 

As you say: Never stop learning.

 

 

[rdarby]

How do you know there isn't infrastructure to help you?

 

And when someone talks to you on the radio, say from ATC, it can be very reassuring.

 

After you have settled down to flying, then call, it is worth it.

 

 

[flying dog]

rdarby,

 

Alas LIFE{ } doesn't come with the guarantee that "ATC" will always be there.

 

(Who knows: This may be my "mid life crisis" - oh what a thought!)

 

Maybe I should become a brick factory. I am making enough of them just now.

 

 

[motzartmerv]

If your looking for life garuntees, join a cult. Sure there's an existentialistic one out there for you.

 

 

[facthunter]

I think he was after a bit of philosophy. Nev

 

 

[rdarby]

If you don't ask you don't get. So ask.

 

 

[flying dog]

It is hard to ask a question to which you don't understand.

 

I don't understand what is happening, I don't understand why it is happening - mostly - and I don't understand how to deal with it.

 

I COULD do some things but they are EXTREME and would be equivilant to burning my bridges. I don't think that is a good idea at this point.

 

I guess that is a problem of living a "black and white" type of life, when really there is so much colour. It is hard to adapt things which work in black and white to work in colour.

 

I think I know what a piniata feels like.

 

 

[facthunter]

It's all an adventure. Keep going. Nev

 

 

[flying dog]

Yes Nev, but sometimes the collateral damage should be avoided.

 

I have enough scares to not really want any new ones simply for the sake of "what the hell...."

 

I don't have enough energy to keep putting up with this sort of stuff.

 

Now and then letting the rope slip is ok, but.....

 

Am I at the end of the rope?

 

 

[facthunter]

Take a little break . You shouldn't be too uncomfortable. Don't be a hero at the moment. Reassess in a while. Nev

 

 

[flying dog]

Nev,

 

LIFE{ } doesn't wait while I am needing rest. I am at the coal face and have no support.

 

As I see it I really don't have many options. Either I "dig" or I "die".

 

There is no support team, there are no back stops. I have just made a couple of life changing decisions and am waiting to see what happens.

 

I am thinking "Prepare for the worst, hope for the best." but hoping isn't helping the situation where I need to sort of prepare for the worst.

 

Fingers on the transponder ready to set 7700.

 

 

[facthunter]

We are all different. I tend to be ready for the bad outcome and pleased when it doesn't happen. It's not realistic to expect everything to go well ( not saying YOU do). Everyone I know goes thru $h1t sometimes and it can seem endless. There is always someone worse off, if you look hard enough. Nev

 

 

[flying dog]

Looking at someone else who is "worse than me" holds little constellation for me.

 

There will always be people better and worse. So comparing myself to someone worse doesn't really make me feel any better.

 

I am also concerned that the "light at the end of the tunnel" is actually the train heading straight for me.

 

I am old enough also to know bad things happen. Alas looking at it: It is more bad than good.

 

Sure the good times are good, but gee the bad times are just as bad.

 

I also know that when you are in $hit upto your neck, KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!

 

Alas that also makes it difficult to call for help.

 

 

[facthunter]

The last part is good comment. You wouldn't want to ingest it.

 

On a lighter note I have long been told /"Life is like a $h1T sandwich The more bread you have the less $h1T you have to eat. That's probably a % thing. Nev

 

 

[flying dog]

Thanks Nev. That's cute.

 

Anyway, I am at work now - tuesday - and had better start shoveling some before any more gets thrown my way.

 

 

[turboplanner]

FD there's a very old saying:

 

"Two men looking out through bars; one saw mud, the other stars"

 

If you are seeing mud, it might pay to step back and look for a better perspective.

 

 

[flying dog]

Yes Turbo, I know.

 

Alas as hard as I am trying, it isn't working.

 

Also "time" is not happening as it should.

 

What some people say should take a second is taking me a lot longer.

 

So although I am "steping back for a different perspective" the act of moving the legs and that happening is not happening as quickly as I would maybe like/want.

 

Subsequently I am suffering in the mean time.

 

Alot of my "plan B"s are - as mentioned - drastic! And if applied there is little/no chance of going back.

 

I don't think that they are the best solution at this point.

 

 

[fly_tornado]

Are you giving away any stuff before you go?

 

 

[rdarby]

There are people who can help with this, and they may be worth talking to. You will get more help than on a flying forum.

 

They can help you get that perspective that is hard to see when at the coal face.

 

Why not chat to a GP or give Beyond Blue a call?

 

 

[flying dog]

rdarby,

 

Yes.... kinda.

 

Alas some of these people "pidgeon hole you" to fit their expectations so they can tell you what they want to tell you.

 

They don't really understand or know the REAL problem - though it is argued that I am not telling them.

 

Gee, if I *KNEW* I would be able to deal with it. But because I don't know/understand and am unable to put it in words it is beyond impossible to explain it.

 

What is going on inside, in my mind, where ever, makes some horror movies I have seen look tame.